Last night I was listening to an old recording I made of conversation with my Teal’hia friend Anamika, whose race is probably often mistaken for the mythological grey. In this particular conversation we were talking about how she saw the purpose of her existence and I asked her what brings her greatest joy. She said that her greatest joy comes from experiencing the diversity of life through the cosmos and awakening individual beings to their own divine nature. You may remember that when I asked the Teal’hia who they are during my January 19th, 2011 encounter, they responded “We are God incarnate.” Over the years I have had many conversations with them about what this means and how they see reality and I have come to understand that this means that they know that they are both an individual entity experiencing physical and non physical life and they are also the totality of everything and the light from which everything arises. And I think when Anamika made her comments about awakening individual beings to their own divine nature, this is what she was suggesting. When she nurtures a being for it’s entire existence from the creation of that soul to it’s returning to the light, she experiences so many wonderful moments of witnessing the growth of that individual and seeing it come to understand what it really is – as both an individual entity, the totality and the light – God incarnate.
Sometimes I have some sense of what that must feel like. For years I’ve been planting trees and when I plant a tree I often see barren ground transform into a place that is teeming with life – insects, birds, reptiles, echidnas etc. One tree can bring so much life and a forest utterly transforms a place. I get very attached to the life I have helped create and there is no greater joy for me than watching new life enjoy it’s existence in a place that was once barren. Imagine how it must feel to create a soul and watch it grow through life and life after life !
Every caring mother and father knows how it feels to participate in their child’s life and what it’s like to see them grow up and go out into the world. Nothing else in life arouses so much emotion from all ends of the spectrum and nothing else arouses so much love and joy. Every person who has ever raised a plant or a pet knows what it feels like to see them grow up and come in contact with the world. There is so much joy in seeing a young animal encounter things for the first time. And how we both love and detest our pets and grieve when they die !
I have this sense that when Anamika and the other Teal’hia go about interacting with life, it’s as if they are encountering life for the very first time. And yet they have encountered countless life forms. But they do so with so much reverence for life, that each life becomes precious. In one way, the way that they are is like a fully mature God encountering something in which the germ of God has just been born and is barely discernible. They see all that is and all that will be – both, the divine in action; God, in all stages of being.
Sometimes I feel it is a great loss and a great tragedy that when we look at each other and when we look at other life forms we see difference and feel judgement, when beings like the Teal’hia see the infinite expressions of God and feel boundless unconditional love.
Anamika once said to me that there is no greater work for her people than to bring love into the universe. And I can think of no argument against this. For in the face of unconditional love, all resistance melts away. Imagine how we could be as a people if we aspired to the same thing !
I often wonder this simple question – “Who would I like to spend a day with ?”.
For me there are many ways to answer this question. I would love to spend a day with my Project Kingdom friends. I would love to spend a day with my mother’s mother – who died 7 years before I was born. I would love to spend a day with my mother’s father who died 2 years after I was born. I would love to spend a day with great grandmother who died in 1996, aged 100. I would love to spend a day with Albert Einstein. I would love a day with my ET friend Anamika. I would love to spend a day with Mark Twain. I would love to spend a day with Carl Jung. I would love to spend a day with the Wurrungurra – an Aboriginal man who lived here long ago. I would love to spend a day with Karol Wotjyla (John Paul 11). I would love to spend a day with any of my guides. I would love to spend a day with my sister who died last year. I would love to spend day with any of the 8 ETs who I have regular internal contact with. I would love to spend a day with Abraham Lincoln. I would love to spend a day with each for different reasons. And I could go on seemingly without end. I do not know if I could pick one person I would most want to spend a day with. Probably if I could, it would be one of my relatives.
Who would you love to spend a day with and why ?
11:57 pm here and a late night for me sorting through some goodies I collected today on a walk around the area near Scorpion Hill – 4 km from my house. I’ve been way too busy for blogging. Sorry. And besides which, writing about ETs all the time is boring ! So here’s one of those self centred where am I kind of posts that describes my recent life.
Watching : Birds, clouds, trees, sky and The Detectorists (on Netflix – fucking excellent !).
Listening : Bird song, silence, U2, my son, singing fences, This American Life, Radiotopia, Two Cellos, Queen, Philip Glass, Crash Test Dummies, heart beats.
Surprise : My son bought home a new cat – “Checkers” a 15 week black and white male, wonderful smiley covered package from my friend in Spain !
Last ET conversation : This morning.
Last ET Contact : Last Tuesday. Working on understanding.
Activities : Working in the vegy garden, raising Lokey the wallaby (via a carer though I do most of the work), raising a son, cutting wood, walking, driving, visiting Peter Mac Hospital, working through understanding how to re-orientate how I have been functioning re: healing, built the beginnings of a pseudo archeoastronomical stone calendar – marking out the winter solstice, working on a new website.
Finds : Buckles from 100 plus year old boots in gold mining country, exotic 100 year old plus perfumery & apothecary bottles.
Pickups : Rocks, soil, sand, leaves, lichen, puff balls, colonial history.
Possible discovery : Revisited the idea that Aboriginal people at local Star Rock may have discovered pi a log long time ago (I doubt it given there propensity to use only small numbers) but they left behind the perfect petroglyphic description of it (Sandor from England had his hand on it !) and for years I dismissed the whole idea, believing it just marked out the Southern Celestial Pole (which in itself is extraordinary and easily on par with the likes of Stonehenge – perhaps not in grandeur but in insight).
Ideas I’m exploring : A systematic overview of all human art and music possible trends in relation to different human and natural forces and how to invent new art styles and music (not for me as an artist but as an idea maker), new possibilities in minimalist music, mapping bird song, systems for understanding plant relationships, the movement of flame and its application to data mapping (flux theory and flux maps), contextual healing, factors effecting divergence and convergence (Divergence Theory / Convergence Theory).
Reading : FD. McCarthy’s : Australian Aboriginal Stone Implements, Jodorowsky’s and Mobius’s graphic novel : The Incal (thanks Frédéric !), Frédéric Gros’s : A Philosophy of Walking, Edward Carr’s What is History ?, Alan Bennett’s : Untold Stories.
Dreams : About killing the old self and entering the spirit via an Aboriginal carved rock and the power of will to tame the unconscious, getting lost in Tasmania and being helped by a beautiful red haired woman who runs a hotel, countless fragments too strange to describe.
Challenges : Tumour update other than what I desired, back problems, son’s phone addiction, repeating some old mistakes.
Enjoying : Breathing, sunshine, moonshine, stars, rocks, walking, birds, Checkers, Lokey, Toa, food (always !), freedom, life, reading, sleep, hot water bottle, indoor and outdoor fires, warm turmeric and honey milk at night, opening smiley box from Spain, international friends, sleeping in on cold mornings, organising my life, working on ideas I’ve been collating for last 20 or so years.
Missing : Flowers, full vegy garden, the ocean, body surfing, Teathar and Yowie people in Gariewerd, touch, warm nights under the Milky Way, Flinders Ranges in South Australia, snorkelling, caving, hot curry, my old body free of aches and pains.
Writing : None ! Started out with great intentions last week to continue Dude interview book but instead have been transcribing some personal conversations that we have had over the last few years. About to get back to Dude interview book in next 30 mins.
Angry about : Global loss of biodiversity, rising human population, global refugee crisis, Toa’s electronic addiction, technological dependence, ongoing conflicts around the globe, people’s general lack of awareness about their connection to Earth, all pervasive advertising and propaganda, investment in defence, so called security and surveillance rather than education and biodiversity restoration and protection.
Curious about : The nature of underground plant/fungi relationships, local Aboriginal people (deceased) and mathematics/archeoastronomy, local ants here on our land and as yet undiscovered ants in local hill country, nearest 100 stars and their planets and ET races, the countless unknown classical and experimental composers and musicians I am slowly learning about, my son’s future, Conjoined Space anomalies I’ve experienced, the nature of the life force, Dude’s life, the Chenntramme (a very small ET race), Rare Earth Element was that are happening covertly, the global distribution of microplastics and how the fuck we’ll remove them from existence, European graphic novels and early American graphic novels, the many wonderful people of all nationalities that I could sit and have a great conversation with over a cuppa.
Grateful for : Everything that brings joy or transformation.
Impermanence is all around us and fills our lives and our bodies. Impermanence is the way of the cosmos. Everything comes into physical being, lives a little and then passes beyond the body. But life itself, is eternal ! From the one mind to the differentiated mind back unto the one mind again. It does us all good to remember that every moment is fleeting and that we will not pass this way again.
Hey folks, how’s life ?
Last night was a turning point in my health. I woke up at 5 am with excruciating abdominal cramps, dragged myself to the toilet where I spent 30 minutes with some of the worst pain I’ve ever experienced. I broke out in a hot sweat, felt like I might throw up and pass out on the toilet floor, where I might shit myself into oblivion. After the most painful slugs I’ve ever given birth to and a never ending drip of ooze, I began shivering and went back to bed. After 14 months of monthly injections of Lanroetide LAR in my butt, I decided in the twilight hours of the morning that enough is enough ! The side effects of this drug far outweigh whatever benefits it has. I’m fortunate enough to pay just $3 per injection for a drug that costs between $2,500-$3,000 in Australia and $7,000 in the US. The government subsidy makes this super expensive drug affordable. However no matter how fortunate I am, this drug just isn’t for me !
I had been living with renal carcinoid tumours for 10 years before I decided to accept treatment and at that point I had 2 options and an option that was a possibility. The first option was Lutate Therapy – which involves the use of a radiopeptide. It came with a small risk of renal failure (which didn’t appeal to me having just 1 kidney) and an acute form of leukaemia. The potential side effects of this treatment in the long term are not yet known. The supposedly easy option, that was referred to as the ‘ace up my sleeve’ by one specialist, was Lanreotide LAR. The other potential option was a form of minicell treatment which delivers microscopic amounts of anti tumour drugs and microRNA to tumour cells. I discovered at the last minute that the group running trials in this treatment, would only consider me when all my other options had run out, i.e. when I was at death’s door ! There is no guarantee that minicell treatment would be effective but I thought the approach they used sounded promising. In addition to these 3 treatments I had been told about a number of immunotherapy /platelet therapy treatments that were in the pipeline at various institutions around the country by Dude and my guide Kanatek.
Dude had encouraged me to stay on L LAR for 18 months if I could but had said on several occasions that I needed to constantly evaluate how things were going. The dozen or so side effects that I suffer from with the drug (many of which I had previously as a result of Carcinoid Syndrome and it was supposed to alleviate) are making life unbearable. I only stayed on the drug because it has been shown to reduce the size of tumours ad I felt that some reduction in tumour size would help in my overall recovery and minimise the negative impacts of Carcinoid Syndrome on my body.
I’ve never been a fat person but I’ve been walking around for almost a year with what feels like a Homer Simpson gut due to abdominal swelling / bloating and it’s the most uncomfortable thing to feel your tumours hurting and like you’ll explode at any time in the night or day. In addition I used to be able to manage my hypoglycemia but now it is almost unmanageable and after being fucked around constantly by endocrinologists, I feel like no one has a fucking clue what my tumours are doing to my body. I can’t go 3 hours without needing to eat or rest. And some days I fee like I’m close to falling into a coma. Glucose and sugar related foods do nothing to alleviate the problem and the only thing that helps is red meat because my body seems to depend on the gluconeogenesis pathway more than the glycolysis pathway. In other words it gains energy from amino acids instead of glucose. Something is going on in relation to the hormones that my body is secreting, that no one understands. Dude has told me that several of the hormones are hormones that we humans have not yet discovered. Which is great to know but it doesn’t help me to find a solution !
On the plus side, Dude’s and Kanatek’s help, has been fantastic but now matter how much help I receive, it has been impossible to alleviate the major side effects of this bloody drug !
Today I was supposed to go in and have my second minor toe surgery (1 rear corner on my big toe) but I felt too sick and had to cancel. Which means another month of hobbling around ! Right now it’s very much a woe is me situation ! But this too will pass in a couple of hours !
If another person suggests another black box alternative therapy to me, I’ll punch them in the face ! I am soooooooo over all these alternative suggestions from people who have never had or outlived tumours by several decades ! They have no fucking idea !
So yeah, I’m a little pissed off. I’m tired now and I’ve tried my best ! Some days I have moments when I feel a little like my sister did when she realised the game was over and that her tumours would kill her.
Where to now ? Well, it will take at least 6 months for this drug to be out of my system. I have 14 3-4 cm hard lumps in my backside and abdomen from the injections. Side effects that were supposed to be pea size and last a week at most. Once the drug is completely out of my system the side effects should subside. I need to have another Gallium 68 PET scan in a few months to see if the drug had any impact. I’ve been handed over to a new oncologist, as the old one has been moved on to another department. No doubt, the new one will try to convince me to have surgery as the last one did. If she ignores what I say she can go fuck her self !
Once I know if the drug has had any impact on my tumours I can make some decisions. In the meantime I’m going back to scratch to look at all my options. I may or may not see a private endocrinologist. That’s going to cost a lot of money but it will be worth it if I can find the right person. Alternatively I may say fuck the lot of them and refuse to go back and see anyone – including the oncologist ! I may also consider approaching the company in Sydney (NSW) who is running the minicell trials again. There is a group in Adelaide (South Australia), who are doing interesting things with a novel form of treatment and I plan on visiting them when I am well enough to travel. But most importantly I am going to continue doing what Dude and Kanatek tell me. I was instructed by the Teal’hia in 2011 to follow Kanatek’s suggestions closely and I’ve been a bit of a slack arse when it comes to maintaining the degree of diligence and discipline that he has suggested is necessary to heal completely. I also plan on spending a lot more time in contact with our local creek – which has very strong energy as a result of the mineral rich sands in it and the hundreds of River Red Gum trees. The critical thing, which I still believe matters most is that I attend to the root causes of this disease, allow myself to feel healed and have the right attitude towards treatment. I’ve had tumours disappear before and I know what works but I have some very bad habits that have been very difficult to change. I know that tumours are merely a reaction to how one lives and that all tumours result from a convergence of root causes. Alternative therapies and western medicine don’t address these. Sometimes they can help shrink tumours but they can’t stop them coming back. Only a radical shift in belief and how one feels in addition to addressing root causes can do that.
Life is otherwise perfect, complete with it’s many varied challenges ! I miss having a completely healthy and fit body and while I can never go back to what I once was, I look forward to experiencing life without this particular drug in my body ! I am convinced that more people die of so called ‘health promotion’ and alternative and western treatments than if they were to know nothing about their illnesses or have no treatment at all.
In 2 months time it will be 12 years since my initial diagnosis. Most people with this disease are dead by now or have had years of treatment and are often not in good shape. I feel blessed that I have outlived all the doom and gloom prognoses. To be given a diagnosis of tumours (or in the popular language of western culture – “Cancer”), is to be given an opportunity to seize the day and live as fully as possible ! My sister Susy had just 11 months knowing she had brain tumours before she died. How fortunate am I that I can still grace this Earth with my presence ! And that I have the opportunity to do so much good and be so annoying to the people I like annoying !
Thank you to everyone who has supported me financially and thank you to everyone who has supported all my work. You all know who you are ! Without you, there would be know ET and I or The Something Monologues. And a huge thank you to the person who gave so selflessly with my recent fundraiser. Your kindness had a profound impact on my life and came at a moment when this little man most needed financial help !
Alas, writing always seems to make everything better. Now that I’ve gotten this far I feel a little silly for complaining so much ! Whenever I have a shitty time like I have this last 2 months, I remind myself that I have so much to live for ! I have a beautiful 19 year old son who makes me very proud and today he has gone to Cosplay Kylo Ren with his friends. I have countless birds to enjoy ! Birds that surround the house, birds that live in the paddocks and along the creek. Birds everywhere. Always talking and singing and bringing me endless pleasure. I have met and spoken to my sister who died and I now know how her journey is unfolding and that she’s OK. That makes me feel better about what happened to her. I am surrounded by countless trees that I planted and feel great pride in the forest that I have created. I have a small body of work in ET and I and The Something Monologues, which I think may contribute a little to making the human world a better place. And I see much good that I can continue creating. I have a car and the opportunity to travel to the local hills, the mountains and the coast where I used to live. I have relationships with ETs and the Hairy Folk. I have an intimate relationship with Dude and Anamika, for which I am so grateful ! I have 3 new friends on opposite side of the worlds, with whom I love corresponding and hearing about their lives. And above all, I have freedom. The freedom to breathe fresh air, the freedom to live how I wish to live and to make my own choices. No matter how long I live, to have known freedom has been the greatest joy.
And now I choose to go outside and lay among the towering River Red Gums in the dry creek bed and bath in the rays of the sun and listen to Magpies singing.
Here’s some sagely words from a few funny people that most of you know (whether in their own words or someone elses).
This is just a brief post that I hope will make something clear to those of you who may not have considered the subject before.
The human body expresses the life force. The fundamental energy of the cosmos. The energy that is in everything and connects everything. When a human being experiences anything, the human body experiences it with or without our conscious awareness. That means that the body knows what we know and what we do not know. The body is continuously conveying what it knows to the brain. We might also say that every part of the body knows what every other part of the body knows because the life force exists throughout the body. The body is always sending out signals regarding what it is experiencing, whether we are consciously aware of it or not. When we pay attention to those signals, we can know what the body is trying to tell us. The human body is not separate from its environment and nor is it separate from the whole – the cosmos. Because of this the human body can know anything from any where in any time. A human being can shift her conscious awareness towards the signals that the body is emitting and communicate with the body, such that it is possible to know anything any where in any time. Similarly a rock in your garden knows what is being experienced by a rock that is buried by ice and snow in Antarctica.
When we human beings realise that it isn’t consciousness that is significant but the life force that is significant, we will experience a major shift in how we see reality and in the practice of external and internal perception.
One of the most significant flaws in contemporary thinking about psi phenomenon is that consciousness arises first and that consciousness effects what it is directed towards. I believe that the reality is that consciousness arises from the life force and that the life force effects reality through the creation, flux and destruction of secondary energies. Dude can materialise anywhere in the cosmos without a space craft, not because of his consciousness but because his body knows it is expressing the life force and feeling the life force that is everywhere. It can make changes without his conscious awareness.
In previous centuries we believed in black and white models of things, which has been expressed in things like duality and cartesian duality / thinking (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mind%E2%80%93body_dualism#Substance_or_Cartesian_dualism). Many people now believe in holistic models of things, which has been expressed in things like non duality. What has been missed between these two forms of how to perceive reality, is an integrated way of seeing things that includes both, that for example integrates duality and non duality. Similarly, we think now that quantum entanglement and consciousness are the answer to everything. What those beliefs are missing is an integrated approach that brings together things like consciousness/unconsciousness, awareness/unawareness, the small scale/the large scale, the parts/the whole, the life force/secondary energies. We seem to be stuck in the this or that model, while claiming that we’re all inclusive.
Our exploration of many psi phenomenon seems to be very much focused on an analytical/thinking approach and misses the sensing/feeling approach. It looks at one and ignores the other and in so doing has nothing to integrate. Lets me give you an example. All the different forms of Remote Viewing have this in common :
- They focus on rigid protocols, which is an example of an analytical/thinking approach.
- They focus on what the mind perceives and largely ignore what the body perceives (I’m not talking about the 5 senses here).
- They ignore the bodies connection to other bodies and its intrinsic wholeness.
- They ask viewers to to exclude analytical overlay while still being subject to conditioning, influence and imagination.
- They fail to integrate all possible information coming in via the brain and body.
- They focus on the core principle of non local consciousness. This is a misnomer. If you have a physical body, you MUST use local consciousness to perceive non local information with the mind.
- They base their core principles on contemporary science and lack insight into the full nature of reality and such things as Conjoined Space – in which other yous are experiencing different things and different pasts and futures exist. Because of this they are at a loss to explain inaccurate predictions, why things sometimes look different when revisited or why different viewers sometimes see the same event differently or completely different events in the same space or in relation to the same person.
We have much to learn about how to approach perceiving and interacting with reality. Remote Viewing is the new kid on the block, everyone’s favourite candy and the bees knees but it isn’t all it’s made out to be, even among the best remote viewers. As a practice, it’s a head game, not a body game and definitely not a head and body game. Remote viewers are prey to all kinds of conditioning and influences and a healthy dose of imagination. Remote Viewing as a technical discipline of the modern era, has mostly been developed by men and I think that is the reason it’s a head dominated game. But if you look at Remote Viewing like practices that were developed in ancient Europe, Siberia, India and China, you see that there were practices that were more bodily orientated and these were influenced in their development by men and women. In China for example, the practice of Qi Gong (with it’s 3,500 + individual approaches) gave birth to many psychic abilities – of which the ability to view at a distance (and sometimes to interact at a distance) arose in a practitioner, only after working with the body and developing the bodies experience of different physical environments and secondary energies. This approach in some schools of Qi Gong was much more integrated than something like the RV approach. And while for the most part it was more integrated, it didn’t draw heavily from the body’s perception. This aspect of the practice of viewing (and manifesting new bodies) is largely missing from human spiritual and energetic practices.
We are now in a privileged position where we are witnessing the convergence of many things, which will in time influence the development of a different way of seeing reality and perceiving and interacting with reality. These include but are not limited to :
- Being able to gain access to more human knowledge than has ever been accessible before.
- Being able to share more human knowledge than we have ever been able to share before.
- Being able to look back of the development of ideas among all written communication cultures and some oral communication cultures.
- The need to find solutions to many ancient and modern problems.
- The mixing of genes and cultures.
- The prevalence of existential threats that are both man made and natural – on Earth and from space.
- ET contact with people on every continent.
- A rising awareness of the presence of ETs visiting Earth and the sharing of non human knowledge and wisdom.
- The resurrection of ancient knowledge.
- A restructuring of human history and geological and biological history.
- A desire for global and local change.
- The ongoing suffering associated with war, famine, disease, poverty, natural disasters, injustice, socioeconomic disparity, over population, lack of opportunity and lack of imagination.
- A loss of biodiversity.
- A spiritual renaissance which is paralleled by spiritual diversification.
- Cross disciplinary investigation into ET contact, the afterlife and a wide range of psi phenomenon.
- Cross disciplinary investigation into the nature of consciousness, different consciousness states and the impact of altering consciousness.
- Wide spread interest in altering consciousness, the use of drugs, entheogens and music to facilitate changes in consciousness.
- Wide spread interest in dreaming and lucid dreaming.
- Cross disciplinary investigation into the nature of systems and applications of systems theory.
- A shift in scientific thinking away from ideas predating 1900. (We are still stuck on many ideas that arose between 1900-1950 !).
- Corporate and military interest in cutting edge ideas and applications in regard to consciousness, the nature of reality, biology, chemistry and physics.
Jazz would not exist without the African slave trade and the African slave trade would not exist without the ship builders of Europe. Nor would it exist without blues or ragtime. Rock would not exist without Robert Johnson, Elvis, George Beauchamp inventing the first electrically amplified guitar or Les Paul inventing the first full bodied electric guitar. Heavy Metal would not exist without Rock. Slayer and all the bands that they have influenced, would not exist without something to make 4 young men angry. Space X and all of it’s journeys into near Earth space, would not be possible without Nitroglycerine or Ascanio Sobrero. More plants and animals would exist on Earth, if it were not for the existence of the British Empire. The nature of reality is such that everything is connected and everything is influencing everything else all the time.
So many people have this stupid idea that we humans need to get out of our bodies or change our bodies to experience reality. But they are greatly mistaken. Our bodies are reality. And until we recognise that all of our body is connected to all of reality, we will never shift our awareness of what is truly possible for a human being to experience. We need an understanding of duality and non duality. We need an understanding of mind and body. We need an understanding of mental activity and feeling. We need an understanding of the life force and the secondary energies that arise from it. We need an understanding of consciousness and unconsciousness. We need to know how to sense with the brain/mind and the body/mind (of course the brain is still part of the body and connected to all the body). Without all of these things integrated into how we function, we will only ever experience limitation. While believing that we have figured it all out and experience our full potential.
Reality isn’t divided on the one hand and it is divided on the other hand. It is both at once. And there is no better place to meet reality than in the body.
Ladies, many of you have heard of the mythical G-Spot and you may have wondered, ‘Just how do I get my partner to hit the right place ?’ And gents, you may also have heard of the mythical G-Spot and wondered the same thing. Or perhaps some of you know the G-Spot intimately well and have mastered the art of super orgasms. Like many of you, I too wondered about the mythical G-Spot. But I’m afraid this post isn’t about the G-Spot. If you’d like to know more about G-Spot and other wonders of female sexuality, try reading Derek Llewellyn-Jones book Everywoman (https://www.amazon.com/Everywoman-Derek-Llewellyn-Jones/dp/B0006DCFRM) and Emily Nagoski’s book Come as You Are (https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising Transform/dp/1476762090 / http://www.emilynagoski.com/).
I’d like to talk briefly about the J-Spot – the Joy Spot and how to hit it more often. What is a Joy Spot ? Well, I just made it up ! But we might say, the Joy Spot is that sweet thing that almost always brings you joy. So how do you hit the J-Spot. You make time for it. You re-arrange your life so that you have regular time for the things that bring you joy. One possibility is that you make make time to have 15 minutes a day doing something that brings you joy. I love walking and it brings me immense joy. So every day I walk for at least an hour. I also love sitting in the sun and listening to the birds, so I take time whenever I can to have breaks and sit in the sun and listen to the birds.
People have all kinds of excuses why they can’t find time. And at the end of the day the only solution is to prioritise how you use your time. If work is taking up too much time, work less, say no to your boss or your business, set boundaries on your time. Everyone is expendable and can be replaced ! If kids are taking up too much of your time, set boundaries on your kids and ask for help. If study is taking up too much of your time, drop a subject, study less, get help, have midnight oil days and lighter days. In every situation the desire to do whatever it takes to create a healthier life is what will create a healthier life. The idea to create change can’t just be stuck in your head. You have to acknowledge that you want it and to feel the desire. And if you can’t feel the desire, feel the pain and suffering and your body trying to say, “NO !”.
Every carer knows what it’s like to feel invisible. Every worker knows what it feels like to feel ignored. Every partner and every parent knows what it feels like to feel unimportant. The only way that anything changes is when you say “NO !” to how things are and begin to take action towards how you would like things to be. But first you have to see how things really are and feel how things really are. Let your body speak to you. Let it tell you that it feels like shit ! And listen ! Listen deeply ! And let your body guide you !
So here are a couple of steps on a potential path to changing your life and hitting the J-Spot.
- Make a list of 10 things you love doing.
- Prioritise them into things that take longer than a day, between 1-24 hours and less than an hour.
- Decide how often you’d like to do each one.
- Figure out what needs to change in order to have time for 1 thing in each category to be realised.
- Identify the obstacles to change for each of those things.
- Make a choice to tackle each obstacle systematically.
- Talk to people who are relevant to your life about the changes you wish to make and ask for their support.
- Every morning ask your body, “What do I need to do today to feel joy ?” and listen for an answer.
- Follow your body’s advice.
Throw away your vibrator, your bong, your phone and let yourself experience the things that bring you greatest joy. If you need your vibrator, your bong and your phone, you better not throw them out, in case someone else grabs them. No point giving up your Joy Toys if you really need them ! But more than likely the things that bring you greatest joy are very simple.
This post is about as New Age as I plan on sounding.
I’m trying to make a point here. People suffer needlessly for so long, postponing the things they most wish they had in their lives, until the time is perfect. I used to see that every day in a Radiotherapy unit. People who had postponed living fully and enjoying life, until they could retire. And within weeks of retirement, their bodies turned around and said, “Fuck you, you’ve been an arse hole to me for decades. Here’s a bunch of tumours !”. And often it was too late and they ran out of chances ! They didn’t get it, being so focused on the golden nest egg and the accolades of a glorious life of work, money and somebodyness ! Many of them ran out of time and no amount of chemotherapy or radiotherapy was enough to stop the resistance of their tumours to a life that was being squandered !
We must all seize the day without excuse ! Because no matter how many of our excuses are valid, every minute of your day you spend filling your life with activities that don’t fill you with joy or provide you with fulfilment, is making you sick ! And I know that’s easy to say and hard to do (Take it from someone who has been there !). If you’re a grandmother who takes care of your own father who has dementia, your husband who drinks too much and your grand children because your kids work too much; that’s going to sound like wishful thinking. If you’re a tradie who works from 7am-7pm 6 days a week for himself and you have a $700, 000 mortgage; that’s going to sound ridiculous. And if you’re a young doctor working in an Emergency Department 70 hours a week and you’re wife is looking after your 3 kids and she’s cranky with you; that’s going to sound like Ju Ju ! But you have that choice. If your life is not what you want it to be, you have a choice how to rearrange it and how to use your time. There are always solutions, if you are willing to make choices, make sacrifices and change how you see a situation and how to see the possibilities. But it may mean that you have to walk away from a particular situation, a particular lifestyle or certain relationships that are unhealthy for you.
Great change can only come from great awareness and a deep desire to honour who you really are !
So why not start by making a little time every day to hit your J-Spot ? 5 minutes a day is all it takes to change a life time !
Horace and Pete is an American tragicomedy created by and starring Louis C. K. that is very funny. The show is situated for the most part in a run down Brooklyn bar and is not so different to Cheers, except that it’s funner – if you have my kind of perverted sense of humour. Alan Alda makes a regular appearance in what maybe his funniest role yet. For those who love British comedy like Still Game, this show is heaven. Be prepared to run a gauntlet of dicks !