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Dear Dave… A Question of the Writer’s Desire and the Reader’s Need

Hey folks, how’s life ?

Some of you have read my comments about the difficulties of sharing ET contact a little while ago ( and some of my long-term readers will have heard me complain about these things on several occasions.

On September 6th, 2017 I received a series of comments from one Dave Gross, who seems to feel that I am a fraud and that ET contact is impossible. I did not publish Dave’s initial comments and then published a few of them and some of you were kind enough to leap to my defence. I then marked the last few comments from Dave as spam and they and any comments since have automatically been deleted, such that I can’t see them even if I want to.

I’d like say something about Dave’s comments because I think they are worth addressing but perhaps not in the way that you might think. Dave is not the first person to express such comments to me and he won’t be the last. I am now at the point in my life (and I should have been a decade ago !) where I must choose carefully whether it’s worth my effort to respond to any given person. I know instantly if connecting to a certain person is bad for my well-being and yet, as stubborn and as stupid as I am, I have chosen on occasion to engage with such people. But it isn’t always the Dave’s of the world who are a problem. It’s often the people who express high levels of dependence. So please read carefully what I am about to say and think over my words, if you are one of these people. Most of my readers are not but a small number are.

Here are most of Dave’s messages but not all of them (I have edited the paragraphs into neat lines but not changed the content) :

I’m willing to give you $5000 in cash. The catch is that 1 of your ET friends has to come & take the cash from my house or any other location desired by the ET, and bring it to you. Of course I don’t have to see the ET & there will be no cameras or any other recording devices. This is strictly for my confirmation of ET’s existence. Should be very simple IF the ET’s exist. Are you up for the challenge Sir?
Greetings Dave

My real e-mail is xxx if you want to keep this between us.

I’m offering you $5000. One of your ET friends have to come & fetch it for you. I don’t need to see him. No recording, video or similar. I can even leave them outside somewhere. Without any proof that ET’s exist, I can’t just send them to you. If you don’t want to do it then we both know you’re either lying or imagining everything. You’ve got my mail.

I don’t want you to show me contact with ET’s, because u can’t. Not even Mr Bright can, because there is none here who had contact! If I’m saying I have contact with giants & trolls on earth, but I won’t show you any proof, just my words, will you believe me?
You’re literately begging people for money without providing any proof of ET existence! I gave you an opportunity & you didn’t take it because you know it’s impossible. You’re telling ferry-tales, It’s really that simple. You None of your readers have made ET contact. And they are all here to find comfort from the harsh reality that they can’t handle, the reality of every day life. They fall for your words, but they are words only & nothing else. What you see is what you get, not what you believe! You can’t proof shit!

For all I know Dave is a stooge who is employed to discredit me but I think he’s an ordinary guy with nothing better to do than spend his life criticising people. I’ve met plenty of people like him and they’re a burden on everyone around them – constantly whingeing and escaping into criticism.

I am not going to defend myself against Dave’s criticism anymore. I already done a little of that over the course of a week when I was really sick with tumour pain, hypoclyemia and struggling to sleep. I just wasn’t in the mood and I regret letting Dave bother me as he did for those few days while I was sick.

There will always be critics for whom seeing is believing. And nothing that any of us say or do can change that. And besides, do we need to bother justifying and prooving our experiences ? Neither I nor my ET friends need Dave’s money or to prove anything to him.

But Dave is right about a couple of things. We should all be sceptical about extraordinary claims because there are many people who are deluded and there are many charlatans. I can tell you that I am not a charlatan and that I am not deluded but I can never prove either one to you. You must determine that for yourself ! I cannot prove anything to anyone and nor do I want to. All I can do is tell you about my experiences and teach you what I’ve learned, so that when you’re ready, you can have your own experiences. AND THEN YOU WILL KNOW AND THERE WILL BE NO MORE DOUBT ABOUT WHETHER ETS EXIST BECAUSE YOU WILL HAVE YOUR OWN PROOF. As to anything that I share with you regarding my experiences with any phenomenon, you must be your own judge. Take or leave anything that I say. Test what you can, if you need to ! I’m not here to deceive anyone. That would be a complete waste of my life !

In one of Dave’s comments he said : You None of your readers have made ET contact. And they are all here to find comfort from the harsh reality that they can’t handle, the reality of every day life. They fall for your words, but they are words only & nothing else. What you see is what you get, not what you believe! None of us can know if another person has made or had ET contact. It may have happened without your knowledge or you may have initiated contact. We weren’t there. How can we know what you experienced, let alone if how you interpret it is correct ? Contact is both an objective and a subjective experience. I would never say that a person who seemed of sound mind did not have contact but I may question their understanding of the experience.

It is also true what you see is what you get AND what you believe. Belief shapes physical and psychological perception. It’s a kind of filter that influences how we see things. And just because leprechaun’s or trolls or giants may not exist, doesn’t mean that ETs don’t ! Belief is all-powerful and we have to hold it with respect and with caution. Belief causes war but belief also heals the planet ! I believe ETs exist but that doesn’t mean I believe that Reptilians exist ! In a reductionist materialist world what you see is what you get (and here Dave is implying we see nothing) and seeing is believing. There is nothing that can be said to a reductionist materialist because in their view everything can be reduced to logical phenomenon and everything can be known. Well, I don’t always function that way. I remain open to mystery and the unknowable that exists as part of a greater reality. I think openness in the heart and in the head, is a sign of maturity and an acceptance of reality. Of how things really are ! Why close your heart and your mind, if you only experience a small part of the greater reality ?

Now to what I feel is Dave’s one redeeming comment : And they are all here to find comfort from the harsh reality that they can’t handle, the reality of every day life. They fall for your words, but they are words only & nothing else. Yes Dave, they are here to find comfort from the harsh reality that they can’t handle, the reality of everyday life. Because life is hard and life is struggle and life is uncertain and all life ends in the death of our bodies ! Why shouldn’t a person find or seek comfort ? Isn’t that what we’re here for Dave – to share, to learn, to love, to make life a little easier for  others – be they our loved ones or strangers ? Why do you live Dave ? I live to enjoy my life and to experience everything fully. And part of my experience involves caring and sharing my time, my energy and the things I’ve learned – so that at the end of my days I can look back and KNOW, I left the world a little better than when I came in and I gave of the things that were given to me. I don’t want to go out a miser Dave ! How about you ? I want to live fully ! So if others come here looking for something I have to offer, so be it. I’d like to think they’ll find some small kernel of truth that they can apply to their own lives or something of interest that sparks a curiosity about the greater reality that connects us all.

Yes Dave, maybe some people fall for my words. Whatever that means ! But words build civilisations, words change lives, words reshape the planet, words heal the biosphere, words set a path for our collective future, words bring suffering and freedom, sadness and joy. Words are everything to the small self !  This post would not exist if words did not have greater power than the sword !

So perhaps Dave, in your view my words are shallow, are empty. I tell fairy tales and nothing else. Nothing I can do will educate people like you to open you heart and your mind ! So perhaps I ought to tell sweet fairy tales that liberate us all from the suffering created by the harsh words that hurt all of humanity !

People have always looked for answers. We as a species have always been seekers. And some of my readers will know that I have spoken about the need for us to move beyond seeking. That seeking is in itself an obstacle to true freedom. Seeking is just part of our game, part of our adventure, part of our discovery of the self, part of our growth as human beings. So what if some people seek something through my words or if some people seek connection with ETs ? Fuck I read heaps. Many of my heroes are poets and song writers and great teachers in whom I found some small thing that turned my life around. We’re all riding on the backs of turtles riding on turtles (yes I bastardised that old adage !) going God knows where ! Sometimes, it’s difficult to trust ourselves, so we trust the turtle underneath us or the one 222 turtles down !

It is my wish that some of my readers begin to trust themselves and stop seeking answers from me or from anyone else. There are a couple of you who really need to think about this and feel that it’s true ! In this sense Dave is spot on ! There is a kind of dependence or co-dependence that has developed between you and I. And it’s critical to your own development that you START TRUSTING YOURSELF and PUT ASIDE YOUR FEARS ! There is nothing and no one in control of the choices made by your mind, your heart or your soul. YOU ARE IN FULL CONTROL OF YOUR CHOICES, WHETHER YOU CHOOSE TO SEE IT OR NOT ! So please, by all means enjoy reading this blog and interacting with us but GET A LIFE and start living fearlessly ! ARISE AND LIVE BECAUSE YOU ARE ALREADY FREE !

So, in a sense Dave has done a real service to myself and to this blog. He’s thickened my skin a little more and honed in on something very important ! It’s important that all of us connect with other human beings. But we must use our own discernment to figure out what we truly believe for ourselves. No one can do that for us !

When it comes to our place on this Earth, all we have is our bodies, our words and our actions. I trust that my words mean something of value to some of you and that my words and my actions bring a little good into the world. You must do the same. Use your words and your actions and your time wisely ! So that you too can look back from death’s door and say ‘I lived well and left this world a little better than when I came in !’.

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You are Dead !

Hey folks, been having a shit few days due to tumour meds, so I’m off to bed early ! ‘Tis my wish you’re all well !

Thanks to Astrid, Sandor and Frédéric for being wonderful and supportive human beings and to Being, Ben and Marcus for your show of support in view of Dave’s ignorance !!! He caught me on a day when I had 3 nasty dickheads to deal with on social media, troubles with low blood glucose and had little sleep ! Any future comments from Dave will be automatically deleted as spam and I will no longer engage with such wankers !

Just something for you to contemplate. Many of you know that I have experimented with many things and investigated many things, these past 30 years. I am particularly interested in a model I have named “Aspects of Self”, which transcends our perceptions of time, about the nature of the self. While building up this model over many years, I realised and then demonstrated to myself, that I could connect with any me, anywhere, anytime.

So here’s the thing I want to leave you…You have the capacity to connect with that part of you that has died at the end of this life or any life !

Having said that, Dude’s explanation of reality as “Conjoined Space” in which the average human has about 1,200 conjoined lives attached to each original life (in each of what we would think of as an incarnation), adds a greater level of complexity to any understanding of what this you is that exists at the end of life.

I’ve been exploring this now for quite a while and spent a long time in dialogue with this other aspect. It has been a deeply rewarding pursuit and one that challenged all my preconceptions about life and death !

Anyway, I’m buggered ! This is just a quick post to spice up your day ! I haven’t yet written about the idea of being able to contact your self in the afterlife of this life but perhaps I will make a TSM on the subject in the next few months. I understand it maybe challenging for those of you with a linear view of reality or who don’t believe in life after life !

I’m curious to know, what would you ask your self, who had already lived this life ?

You can learn more about Aspects of Self or Conjoined Space or After Death Communication (with others), here on the blog or on The Something Monologues.

TSM146 : The Relativity of Our Humanity

In this monologue I introduce the idea that there is a relativity to our humanity.

Many humans like to believe that we are more than human and that’s all, while others argue that we are merely a living organism and nothing more. I argue that we are both transcendent and ordinary ! Some people try so hard to be more than human and forget their humanness – at great cost ! While others revel and suffer in their humanness, ignorant of other aspects of their being.

We humans also believe that we are separate and forget that we are defined by our relationship to each other and the natural world. We are in relationship with all of existence ! We become consumed and preoccupied by our roles and forget that they are created by relationships.

There are many people who didn’t receive what they needed to feel like whole human beings. I ask if it’s possible to reskill people in love and intimacy to create new bonds and attachments in groups of people who are bound by suffering.

An Update on My Health

Hey folks, I have just been to Peter Mac Cancer Hospital for two days, where I had my latest blood tests, Gatate Scan and consult. The good news is that after 6 months of treatment, my tumours have at last stopped growing, if not, shrunk a little (my nuclear medicine doc was pretty confident that it had shrunk a little but said his measurement was slightly different to the last measurement). My doctor does not want me to have another scan for 12 month. Every new PET Scan (which has a CT scan component) adds to the cumulative radiation my body has had to cope with – so one scan a year is great news ! At this point I will continue with the injections I’ve been having, rather than proceeding with the more aggressive treatment (which is both dangerous to my one kidney and has a 2 % risk of creating a form of leukaemia). I’ll give the injections another year, which means I’ll have to put up with more hypoglycemia, bloating, palpitations, full body and half twitches, memory problems, sluggish poop, risk of gall bladder kicking the bucket (working to prevent that with daily massages) and other miscellaneous side effects. It’s not absolutely clear that the injections are what has slowed my tumours. It may well be the other changes I’ve made in how I function or perhaps my tumours are going through a slow growth period ! But I’m confident that both the treatment and what I’m doing are making a difference. The challenge for the next year will be coping with the side effects and feeling healed, which is at times very difficult to feel because this drug is so damned nasty ! But I am alive right now – enjoying my life and I am very, very grateful that I’ve had more than a decade to make the most of what I have !

In the next 12 months I’ll also be looking into some new treatments that I know are on the horizon. Some of you may remember my story about the Teal’hia visiting us in 1997 and telling Rachel about a new form of tumour treatment and the dreams I had about Minicells, in relation to a particular company who are developing this technology. If I absolutely have to consider having treatment, I’m keen to follow up with the things I was told about and to reconnect with the company who were willing to consider treating me, once I had exhausted all other options. Now that I’m having significant side effects on my current treatment and the other one is considered dangerous, they may reconsider.

I’m blessed to have come a long way from here : ! At different times in the last decade, I’ve been pretty sick and I’m so glad I trusted my instincts and did what I felt I needed to do. I refused surgery because I felt it would kill me, although the doctors thought I was crazy ! And I said no to many other things because I didn’t believe that they would help !

One day perhaps I will write a book about the experience of living with tumours. And in it I will attack western medicine and alternative medicine equally, big pharma and almost every attitude that society has to illness. Illness hasn’t made me a kinder, gentler person. It’s made me angrier and angrier about how we treat one another as human beings. There are days when I get very upset with man’s attitude to illness (among many other things) and I have to remind myself of the things that were shared with  me …  Losing my sister Susy to Brain Tumours in February forced me to look very carefully at how we human beings function and societies attitude to illness. I’ll verbally assassinate the next person who suggests I try Bicarb Soda, after seeing what it did to my sister ! So called alternative treatments (black box ideologies) will be a major target in any book I write about my experience of illness.

Anyway, I’m here and that’s all that matters ! I’m stuck in a world where 99.9 % of people will never understand where I’m coming from in relation to illness and our myopic attitudes to living fully ! Perhaps the only thing I can do, is to impart what I’ve learned !

If I’ve learned just one thing, it’s this – It’s our attitude to whatever treatment we choose, that matters most and makes the greatest difference. Attitude creates belief, belief creates feeling, feeling creates disharmony or harmony, disease or healing.

Thanks for sticking by me !

Give me a few days to recover and then I’ll try to catch up on responding to your comments !

Best wishes to all,

Bright. 😉

PS. Little Sun are you OK ?


TSM143 : The Shocking Reality of How Things Are & The Seasons of Life

Sometimes we try and turn away from the shocking reality of how things are. But how things are is how they are. Isness is a powerful ally !

In this walk and talk I explore how nature’s seasons and the cycles of nature, parallel the seasons of our life and how we all face the same seasons of life, as part of the seasons of the human clock – from the cradle to the grave.

I offer a tour of the seasons here on this land and suggest how facing the shocking reality of all that nature brings, helps us to face the shocking reality of how things are in our own life. I suggest that the seasons of nature and of human life are necessary to create awareness and to help us grow. Life is both predictable and unpredictable and if we have courage, we can stay open to anything that life might throw at us.

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Thank You !

I just wanted to offer a thank you to everyone who reads this blog or listens to the TSMs – Thank You ! 😉

Thanks to everyone who has made a donation (especially Sandor, Astrid,  Frédéric and Nick for your ongoing support) ! Thanks to everyone who has left a comment and engaged in dialogue ! Thanks to everyone who has sent me words of encouragement and well wishes for my healing ! Thanks to everyone who has encouraged me to continue sharing my conversations with Dude and to continue sharing my contact and other experiences ! Thanks to everyone who asked Dude and Anamika questions for the interviews – sorry I could only choose a small number. The Dude book should be completed by January (the interview has 1 question left but I have a series of conversations to transcribe and edit). I’m still open to questions for Anamika.

Thanks to everyone who has shared something special with all of us about your lives ! You don’t have to but still you do ! Thanks Darci for caring about the state of your fellow human beings – here and there. It’s my wish that your husband is recovering well from his heart surgery and that you are being true to you ! Thanks Frédéric for learning to trust in you and for carrying the TSMs from one country to another and for finding something of value in my words ! Thanks Astrid for your love and kindness and being that rare quality of human being that makes friendship one of the great experiences of life ! Thanks Oliver for reaching out across oceans of time and for seeing the absurdity of the great search fr something else – knowing that everything we seek, is already here ! Thanks Lisa for sharing your ups and downs, for prompting me to consider Philip K Dick’s experiences a little more seriously and for having the courage to cut up and share in front of your fellow human beings ! Thanks Marcus for looking inwards and for having the courage to let go of expectations. Thanks Being for placing your faith in the words of a skinny man down under and in your own innate goodness ! Thanks to the unseen faces of Pine Gap and the men and women at the other surveillance sites that have an interest in my words and for opening your own minds to the words of an invisible no one (I know that some of you are changing !) ! Thanks JoJo for having the will to present another point of view and for standing up for what matters ! Thanks Jules and thanks Janet for personifying love and compassion and for magnifying them for the benefit of others ! Thanks Derek for having the guts to go on living after the death of your beloved and for bringing your light to those who need you ! Thanks Mary Jane for living fully and radiating so much love ! Thanks Judith for understanding and for giving a damned about the natural world and the human race ! Thanks Falkesolberg for being willing to reach out and connect with the other ! Thanks Alan for asking critical questions and for being open to the uncomfortable ! Thanks Gillian for your warmth and encouragement and for seeing our shared humanity ! I know there are many of you that I haven’t mentioned. Thank you ! Thanks to the 30 or so regulars who show up everyday to see what’s on the page ! Don’t ever be afraid to say hi ! And lastly, thank you to everyone who has ever taken the time to read, watch or listen to anything that I’ve shared ! Thanks for taking the time to listen to another point of view !

Thanks to BOX for the space and for letting me have a small home away from home ! Thanks to Podbean for making reaching my fellow human beings so easy ! And thanks most of all to Matt Mullenweg (, Mike Little and all the staff at WordPress for giving a quiet Australian man who lives in the middle of nowhere, a place to express himself and build a bridge with his fellow human beings !

Thanks to everyone who has endured my experience of the human condition – raising a son, living with tumours, experiencing the weirdness of conjoined space earlier this year, my anger at global injustice and inequality, my arrogance and ignorance, my vulnerability, my going all over the place, my stupidity, my frustration, my anger with the UFO/ET field and the New Age Movement, my grief at losing my sister Suzy to brain tumours earlier this year and above all my uncertainty. Life just is and what ever we make of it is up to each one of us. I never know what the hell is going to unfold as part of my experience of life ! God knows I never had a clue as I was growing up that I would share my thoughts, feelings and experiences with my fellow human beings !

This blog is called ET and I. But it’s all about just one thing – the self. The self is me and teh self is you and the self is the other, no matter what the other appears to be.

Thanks for being alive to share this journey with me ! We are all here now because we chose to be and because every day we passively and actively choose to be ! We are here to live as fully as possible, so live – with everything that life offers you – both good and bad ! No matter how fucked up the world appears to be, life matters and each one of you matters ! Trust in you ! You are the path and the way ! The self that allready has all the wisdom it needs !


TSM140 : Types of Rituals & How to Create Rituals

I haven’t posted any TSMs for a while, as I’ve been sick and am still recovering. Unfortunately I had to scrap 4 TSMs because the wind was too strong. I should have some new TSMs up by the end of the week.

Thanks to Frédéric for your ongoing support ! It makes a world of difference. Frédéric lives in Barcelona and it was a relief to hear that he was safe during the recent terror attack !

In this walk and talk, I contemplate the different types of rituals that fill human life and how we might create our own rituals to enrich our life.

Enjoy ! 😉

TSM139 : The Importance of Human Drama

All spiritual traditons emphasize the importance of freeing ourselves from drama because drama causes suffering. I beg to differ. Drama helps us to grow and suffering is OK. In today’s walky, I explore the importance of human drama and how drama reshapes our entire identity and experience of being human. 😉



TSM138 : The Shadow of My Ancestors

We all have ancestors alive and dead, who loom over us like long dark shadows that arouse something unfathomable deep inside of us. In this trek down the dirt road, I introduce you to 4 of my dead ancestors and share a little of who they were and what they meant to me.

We are all experts in one thing and one thing only – ourselves. It’s my wish that by sharing intimate things about my own life, I strike a chord that resonates in you. And in so doing we remember our common humanity and that we are all dealing with the same fundamental issues in life.

😉 Bright Someone

Grand child of a Steel Worker, Great grand child of a 100 year old Roman Catholic.


We Didn’t Start the Fire

For those younguns who think the world is pretty fucked right now – I want to assure you that its no worse than it’s ever been. We just didn’t know about it growing up and you do !

What matters most is how you choose to react to it !

My suggestion to those who want to feel better – disconnect from your social media, go outside and enjoy the world. See the sun, forget about the chemtrails (most of which are contrails that have increased due to increased population), the dreadful depressing news of the world, starvation, animal abuse, bioversity loss, the looming war in the middle east and Korean Peninusula and Mr Thanks for all the Entertainment Trump !

Chill out and enjoy life because if you don’t you won’t ! We are allways going to have problems ! The best way to overcome them is to start by transforming your view of life ! So, get outside and make it fucking awesome and celebrate being alive !


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